Activate Your Life

Build a life that is rich, fulfilling and fun

If you are reading this and considering life coaching then probably there are a couple of things that are likely to be true:

There is something in your life that you would like to change.

You are not sure what to do to change it.

On the surface, it probably seems that you are doing ok.

But you have some self-doubt, a lack of confidence, you feel stuck in your job, stuck in your private life, or overwhelmed by anxiety and worry.

Maybe things don't feel right, you've lost your passion and motivation, somehow you've arrived here, but you're not sure how you got there. 

Maybe you feel like you want to make a change, be someone different but you're not sure what you need to change and how you need to change it. 

Maybe you feel that there has to be more for you in life, more purpose in your work, better relationships, and more time for yourself.

Maybe you are not sure what you want, or who you want to be anymore.

I know how painful this is because I've been there. I felt stuck in my life for a long time never really making much progress at work on in my relationships.

I've suffered with anxiety and a lack of confidence in myself, my abilities and my knowledge.

I've seen that others seemed more focussed than me, more together, and lived lives with more meaning.

It was through meditation teacher training that I learnt about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).

I felt that I finally found an approach that made sense to me, something that enables me to build a structure around my life, to achieve work/life balance and to become who I truly wanted to be.

I started offering ACT based coaching to my clients, and this is when I saw even more change in me and my clients.  

Now I wake up happy every day, I have a deep sense of fulfilment and inner peace. I don't get caught up in my emotions and thoughts like I used too, and most importantly I don't have an sense that I'm empty inside.

Using ACT, I get my clients to a space in ten-weeks that took me 40 years to reach.

To a place that they have the courage to be who they want to be, to relieve their stress, anxiety and live life on purpose.

To gain genuine happiness and fulfilment.

Now I want to help you change your life in as little as ten weeks.

In ten-weeks I'll give you the tools and the knowledge to build a life that is rich, meaningful and fun.

At the end of the programme you'll gain;

  • Genuine happiness
  • Meaning and purpose
  • Confidence
  • Closer relationships
  • Health and wellbeing
  • Deep fulfilment

Acceptance and Commitment Training works because it is based on twenty years of peer reviewed research. It is the only proven method that builds your Psychological flexibility.

Psychological flexibility helps you build the emotional resilience you need to navigate the complexity that is inherent in your world.

It does this by training your mind to deal with the uncertainty, stress and conflicting demands that you have in your life and work. 

Psychological flexibility helps you see your blind spots and enables you to take action based on your deeply held values rather than being driven by your emotions and unhelpful thoughts.

 
 
What stood out was that in a sea of wannabe practitioners and teachers of “skills” and “practices” in this space, this is the real deal: Focused, intelligent, exploratory, tolerant and wise, I’d recommend Gary’s very human, humane, and practical approach to anyone.
— Neil

The Ten Week Programme

During the ten-week programme I'll take you through the six processes that work together to help you to become ‘psychologically flexible’.

These are;

  • Acceptance - Allowing thoughts and emotions to come and go without struggling with them.
  • Cognitive defusion - learning ways to put distance between you and your thoughts so they no longer act a barrier to what you want.
  • Mindfulness - I'll teach you how to be aware of the here and now and to be open and curious about your experience.
  • Observing the self - I show you how to develop a transcendental sense of self so you can step back from your unhelpful stories you tell yourself.
  • Values - You'll define your values with clarity and identify what you stand for and what truly matters to you. 
  • Committed action - I help you define goals according to your values and help you commit to taking action even when action is difficult.

Each week you'll be set homework and be required to carry out a daily mindfulness practice of 15 to 20 minutes per day. 

Homework will be a mixture of self reflective and life planning exercises.

At the end of the programme you'll have a detailed and clear idea of the life you want for yourself, the person you want to be and most importantly the skills and knowledge of how you are going to achieve it.

A weekly in-depth conversation

We will meet every week for an hour-long conversation.

This won't be like any other conversation that you've had in the past as I'll use a technique called experiential dialogue. 

Experiential dialogue is an evidence-based strategy for harnessing the power of language to free you from life-constricting patterns and promote psychological flourishing.

Grounded in relational frame theory (RFT), the theory of language acquisition and cognition, experiential dialogue helps you see yourself in a new light and with a new perspective.

We will use your present moment awareness to help you go deep into your emotions and roadblocks; I'll use experiential metaphor and techniques that will help you activate and shape your own behaviour change.

Through experiential dialogue, I help you build a flexible sense of self while fostering meaning and motivation that stays with you after each session.

Gary has extraordinary coaching capabilities. He puts his natural empathy, curiosity and personal experience to the service of his coaching classes, which are always engaging and mind-opening.
— Xavier

Your Investment

How much is it worth to you to be free of self-doubt, anxiety and stress? 

To know who you are in your heart and dare to live your life in-line with your deepest held values?

To be who you want to be in every situation?

To be calm in the face of frustration and anger?

To be confident in the face of fear?

To have clarity of purpose and know how you are going to achieve your goals?

When I ask my clients this question they say "priceless".

This is why I use a method called value-based pricing to set my fees for this programme.

This means together we work out a price that is good value for me and good value for you.

Although I do have a minimum price, in essence, this means that you tell me how much you are willing to pay for your coaching.

The fee should be large enough to motivate you to take action but also affordable. It should give you a little bit of anxiety when you think of your number.

Your figure is unique to you, your life circumstances and your income. But I find most people pay around a month's net wage for the entire programme.

The fee is due up front in full before the programme starts and is non-refundable.

After the programme finishes, we will continue to work together for up to another six months helping you build on the foundation you've created.

You'll then pay a per session price of €125 every two or three weeks.

On average it will take you about 12 to 18 months to fully overcome your unhelpful behaviours and break your unhelpful patterns and be settled into your new life.

The 21-day habit formation is a popular psychology myth.

This programme is not for you..

Unless you are willing to go deep into your emotional roadblocks and are committed to doing the work you need to change your life.

I can guarantee results because ACT is based on solid evidence and I only work with people who are committed, ready and willing to change.

Coaching with me is about exploring your difficult emotions and deepest fears.

You won't find me shouting at you or being confrontational. I'm not one of these in your face coaches telling you brutal truths about yourself.

If you want a coach who is going to motivate you through conflict, then that isn't me.

I will, however, ask you the difficult questions that you've been avoiding asking yourself.

I'll take you places that you don't want to go so you can see yourself in a new light and with a new perspective.

And I'll do it with compassion, love and acceptance.

Becoming who you want to be in ten-weeks isn't easy. But nothing worth having in life is easy. 

If you feel lost or stuck, feel like that if you'll continue the way you are then things might break down, and you are ready to change. Then book your first session using the button below.

There is no charge for this session and no commitment to continue, nor any guarantee I'll offer you a place on the programme.

 
 
I came to Gary wanting to increase my communication skills, further develop self-compassion and committed action...I come out of each session with greater purpose and tools to help me move forward positively in ways that are consistent with my values...The biggest accomplishment for me during this time has been the profound increase in self-compassion
— Casey