I’m Gary and I provide open, honest and effective coaching that helps you achieve your goals, have better relationships, overcome challenges and lead more purposeful and meaningful lives.
I’ve lived in a couple of different countries, at the start of my life I lived in the Middle East in the Oman before returning the UK to finish schooling in my teenage years. I’ve then lived in Sweden and Belgium and no doubt I’ll move again. Growing up outside of the UK when I was young meant that I’ve always felt more at home outside of the UK rather than in it.
I’ve got over 20 years of experience working across industries and sectors. I’ve served in the British Royal Air Force, designed navigation systems for cars, won and managed UK and EU research funding and started my own (failed) tech company.
Along the way, I’ve made mistakes, I’ve suffered from impostor syndrome, feelings of not being good enough, and even depression. Despite this, I’ve always been driven by a desire to grow myself and help grow those around me.
I coach within a value-based model called Acceptance and Commitment Training (ACT). In ACT we place a lot of emphasis on connecting with your values so that you can make meaningful choices.
My goal for my life and my business is to make a difference.
I value openness, honesty and authenticity. I don’t like deception and manipulation, this is why I use an evidence-based model with my coaching. I’m trying to be open and honest with myself, my family and my clients. This is difficult to achieve but very rewarding, this is why the emphasis on living your values is important in ACT, you get a greater sense of vitality from value-based living.
I’m a bit of a unicorn as a man who focuses on coaching women.
I get a lot of comments and questions from both men and women about my choice to focus on women. Equality between the sexes is important to me and I want to have my life stand for something bigger than me. Being a man who focusses on coaching and mentoring women seems a challenge that many other men wouldn’t take up.
This is something I feel is important for me to do, rather than something I think is important, which is the point of trying to be yourself and cultivating authenticity. It stirs up a lot of uncomfortable feelings and thoughts in me which helps me understand this is an important area of my life and who I need to be.
Obviously, I know nothing about being a woman or have any knowledge or experience of what it feels like to live under the male patriarchy. I am a white middle-class privileged male, so I’ll try to use my skills and experience to do something that makes a difference.
I feel that coaching, mentoring and supporting women to become authentic leaders is something I am meant to be doing so I am just going to do it.
Certificates, workshops and continuous education
Foundation and supervision in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy – Contextual Consulting
Leading people and teams – University of Michigan
Effective virtual teams – Open University
Maths for Science – Open University
Exploring Psychology – Open University
Science a foundation course – Open University
HNC Electrical Engineering – Royal Air Force